common problems of filipina married to koreans

[prada0011]

i'm currently living here in korea with my husband and 1daughter together with my mom in law. actually i don't have any problem except that i miss having maid in the phil. one time i said to my hubby that i want to go to phil coz i want my mom to help me take care my baby and as well as visit her but my mom in law heard it and she said that if i want to go back to phil it's fine but i can never come back here in korea and cannot see my baby. it's very shocking right?
here in korea if u separate with ur husband is it true that u can't get ur baby?coz in phil the mom can get the child. i wont separate with my husband but i still wanna know ur opinion pls.

[dodong]

Unless you can reach agreement with your husband, you would let the court decide who has the custody of your child.

If you are not working in Korea and have no regular income, most likely the court would favor your husband, presumably he is working and has regular income.

If you both work, and have regular income, then you will have to present your case to the court why you are the better one to have the custody of the child.

I don't know the law in Korea about this, but I am speaking with common sense.

P.S. Your mom in law is pretty nasty if she said stuff like that.

[arman45]

PRADA ,your mom in law should be dreaming,no country will allow that kind of law.insist what u want to ur husband cause if u dont your mother in law will manipulate ur life,and that will be the start of a never ending emotional pain 4 you.

[prada0011]

becoz here in korea usually the guy get the child coz they have income eh housewife lang nman aq. my husband always saying that i cant get the child if we separate,i cant comment on that coz it's the reality.
one thing i hate here is i have to stick and live w/ my mom in law 4 ever coz my hubby is 1st son and thats the rule we cant separate and live our own. tsaka the koreans always follow and respect there mom more than there wife.
PS. mom i law is ok,i mean i dont have problem w/ her only except this and even i dont have problem like this gus2 ko parin bumukod kmi coz u know every person have differences and we are in 1house so may mga gus2 kmi n di magkatugma.
btw guys just feel free to say ur opinion and ur situation too. MABUHAY.

[ka rashid]

warm greetings of peace to everyone in this thread:

same problem of Pinays married to Arabs here and other nationalities.
Tell you, is there a way for you guys to extract the civil code or any family code
they have - any jurisprudence will do.

you got to empower yourselves in terms of RULES and LAWS followed by their
customs..Koreans i understand are closely knitted families.

Inter-marriages have been an issue globally among our women OFs, most of the
time sila yong agrabyado.

Have you tried soliciting the legal advise of the assistance to nationals of the
Phil. Embassy nearest to your location?

i will make my research will get back to you guys.


ka rashid
senior action officer
V-team for Advocacy & Community
Service, Middle East Bureau

[kozy_b]

Hi everyone,

its so sad to hear the story of Lerma and Prada,girls we are filipino we have to fight for our right,show your courage and wisdom,its in our blood dont let those people turns us down.and thanks to Ka Rashid that he is there for the legal advice,theres always a way out on this problems,but make sure that this will be done legally or else every efforts you do are useless.I just want to say,that this is the advantage when you are with the europian man or husband,they are more open minded and understanding,most have the freedom and its always a fair or equal rights about the family especially in the costudy of the child.most if the filipina here in europe have the freedom to decide do what they want and independent from thier husband. I wish you good luck Prada and Lerma.

Originally Posted by ka rashid

warm greetings of peace to everyone in this thread:

same problem of Pinays married to Arabs here and other nationalities.
Tell you, is there a way for you guys to extract the civil code or any family code
they have - any jurisprudence will do.

you got to empower yourselves in terms of RULES and LAWS followed by their
customs..Koreans i understand are closely knitted families.

Inter-marriages have been an issue globally among our women OFs, most of the
time sila yong agrabyado.

Have you tried soliciting the legal advise of the assistance to nationals of the
Phil. Embassy nearest to your location?

i will make my research will get back to you guys.


ka rashid
senior action officer
V-team for Advocacy & Community
Service, Middle East Bureau

[angelique]

hello prada and lerma be strong...nalulungkot ako't my mga nadadagdagan pang naghihirap at nagtitiis na pinay na 2lad nyo katulad nyo rin ako noon ginawa ko rin ang lhat para unawain cla pero d ko nkayanan ala nko sa puder nla ngaun pero d pa rin ako totally masaya khit nasa akin ang anak ko.d rin pala sulosyon ang iwan at takasan ang problema ang akala ko malaya nko d rin pala kc khit ksama ko sya nanjan pa rin yung katotohanan na hindi sya magiging sau...lalaki ang anak ko at d2 sa korea dapat nsa puder sya ng ama nya at khit na dumaan kmi sa korte talo pa rin ako.4 yrs. na kming malayo sa knila pero ala pa rin peace of mind kawawa lang ang bata pati sya nadamay pero masaya ako't d sya magiging ka2lad ng ama nya at tiyo nya my sakit cla mentally na ayaw kong mahawa ang anak ko kya ko sya nilayo.pero sna may mka2long sa atin na maayos ang ganitong problema meron tayong kanya kanyang rason pero isa lang ang hangad natin..."ang mapalaki natin ng maayos ang mga anak natin"...dba?the best thing to do kunin nyo ang loob ng asawa nyo khit wag na ang biyenan, kausapin nyo syang mabuti ang importante maging masaya kau kasama ang bata gawin nyo ang lhat wag kaung susuko...at wag mkakalimot magdasal sa Kanya. Sana po may mkatulong...marami na pong nagdusa at patuloy na nagdurusa sa ganitong sitwasyon ala na po sanang sisihan wala nman pong my gustong hindi maging masaya lahat naman cguro ginagawa lahat para makamtan pero kung mag-isa mo lang gumagawa ng paraan at para sa knila ay walang halaga para ano pa.thanks....

[Pare]

i guess you answered your own question in your first sentence. walang problema. well, regarding child custody, what i know as a law student in manila, is that in pinas, the mother automatically keeps the child under the age of 7, for the reason that the 1. the mother's love cannot be replaced and 2. the mother has the best interest/s for her child. Pero, dito we need to abide by their batas. In here, what i know is that the father gets the child for the reason that the father has the financial resources to support the child. Provided of course that there is a legal battle for custody of the child in case of divorce. In your case, you are married to a korean national, it has a lot of advantages. you can enter/exit anytime you want to as a right. This right is guaranteed by law, so you can go in or out. And yes, you can invite your Mom here, legally. Better talk to your husband about this. Your Mom can stay here for some months and file for extension of stay in order to help you assist with the child. Better get some guideline/books at Immig office. Know the law, its better.

[yunhan]

for lerma and prada,
apat na taon pa lang ako d2 sa korea dalawa na rin ang anak ko,may kaibigan din akong katulad sa inyo ang kalagayan. at in case talaga gustong gusto nyong makalaya sa asawa nyo puede kayong makipag divorce,kung hindi nyo na kayang tiisin ang mother in law nyo... makukuha nyo ang bata kung ipaglalaban nyo ang karapatan nyo at susuportahan kayo nyan ng korean government kung korean citizen na kayo. pero kung hindi pa kayo korean citizen hindi nyo talaga makukuha ang bata kc kahit ang government ay hahabulin din kayo,kc ngyari na yan d2 sa lugar namin,..d2 ngayon sa korea mahalaga sa kanila ang mga bata dahil kumukunti na ang mga bata sa korea. my only advice is as long as kaya nyo pa try to comunicate to your husband pero kung hindi kaya nya pakikinggan at kung sasaktan ka nya puede ka rin magreklamo sa social welfare na malapit sa inyo.....good luck to both of you.

[naya015]

hi lerma..
alam u medyo silmilar tau ng posisyon..may anak nrin sa una tong hubby ko 3 then may anak kami isa lalaki nung una hindi pinaalam na anak ng asawa ko sa nanay nia na my anak sakin..ang cnabi anak ko daw un sa hapon..dba masakit sya ang unang b.f ko then pnkilalasa nanay na anak ko sa iba....ayaw nrin kc ng nanay nya na magkaanak pa dahil meron ng tatlong anak..tsaka may lalaki na..kc d2 sa korea mahalaga sa kanila ang anak na lalaki..
pero sa ngayon alam na ng nanay nia na may apo xa yung ngalang d ko xia madala d2 sa pinas kc mag aasawa na yung anak nya dalawa babae hindi kmi mairegister sa cencus kc malalman ng side na mapapangasawa..
nakakloka dba..minsan inisip korin kung hiwalayan ko nalang xiz kc prang nakakaawa ako pero iniisip korin ang anak ko magiging kawawa din at least ngayon suportado xia sa lahat ng kelangan..mababait naman ang koreano kya lang masyado matataas ang standard nila.
prang hirap intindihin tsaka kahit may edad na ang mga lalaki d2 masunurin prin sa nanay nila.kung anong sabihin lagi nlang winner ang nanay nila..
kya the best way na gawin eh maging close ka sa nanay nila kc cla ang mas may power..
and magtiis pra sa anak natin...email kasakin pra tsikahan tayo pag boring u or may problema ka..(naya015@yahoo.com)