Men Give Love for Sex; Women Give Sex for Love--Is is true? Ask us Men

[Gino]

Why most men wanted to make love with lights on

While it maybe true to some extent or instances because as for my own vocabulary there is only a hairline difference between love and lust especially from men's perspective. To explain my point, allow me to lay the premise of my opinion. Most, if not all men are sexually aroused (pardon my words for I couldn't think of any substitute terms for this) first by visual stimulation then physical stimulation (in that particular order and its order is irreversible but it could be at the same time). This fact could explain why most men wanted to make love with lights on.

Our definition of Love

Men's definition of love and lust manifest on our behavior during the "act". From lust, the mood now suddenly shifted to love, and men are focusing more on their performance on bed and how they can satisfy their spouses. Most men (I’m not saying all, duh) who loves their spouses or partners, (hey guys, I’m not promoting pre-marital sex here huh?) believed that both party should enjoy the love making act (with the exception of those who engage in paid service). That is, most men manifest their love through that act of making love. However, what most men failed to realize is the complete understanding of women's anatomy and women's nature in general- resulting to a failed mission. This predicament will explain why it is difficult for men to defend the mis-connotation that Men give love only for Sex.

Women’s pre-requisites

Women, on the other hand are from Venus. What men failed to discover is that women needs emotional and sensual stimulation plus of course, physical. (From sight, smell, touch, taste & hearing while men only focus on sight). Women requires more pre-commencement activities; read: foreplay that may include the setting of background music, the physical arrangement of the matrimonial bed, the room, the lightings, from aromatic candles to scents, nighties to be worn down to perfumes and lastly, don’t forget personal hygiene. Though, knowing women’s physical anatomy comes as a bonus point.

Most men are quite adamant about these because of men's natural urge to consummate the sudden feeling of "wanting to make love and let's do it ASAP". But this does not mean that men only wanted to show love just to have sex, it's not always the case in general.

Well, men and women couldn't understand much of each other because Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

[art962003]

woow ang haba nun. Tanong ko lang me asawa ka na ba? or dating me asawa ka? dahil nakalimutan mo ang pinaka importanteng gustong makita ng karamihan ng mga babae - makapal na pitaka- what els eh di money, money, money? NO MONEY NO HONEY.

[nesotos]

Brod Art

Welcome ulit...Nice to bump on you here… hehe… brother Gino is happily married with kids… if you will browse the threads, it will be easy for you to find out that he loves his family so much…

Nga pala, nakita ko rin yang thread na NO Money NO Honey!... hahaha… sige pupunta rin ako dyan brother… minsan punta ka ng BistroMabuhay, inum tayo dun and kwento mo yung pangyayari sa pamilya mo (kalungkot din bro)... kahit cyber-drink lang ok na!...

Bro. Gino

I guess the mis-connotations would have to do with the words- GIVING and MAKING

Making love and giving love… two very different acts…

I can say “I like giving love on the dining table”…how?... because I cooked for my wife or girl which is how I express my love for her… which would be different if I said – “I like making love on the dining table…” and I’ll leave your imagination to run wild on that!

The premise that (if I may rephrase the words)…

Men expect Sex in return for Love; or that Women expect Love in return for Sex may hold true!... especially in relationships not built on respect… or if I again rephrase the words and substitute LOVE with NEED…or want if you may...

So we now have very different premises to wit:

Men expect Sex in return for Needing that woman and Women expect Needing her in return for Sex (nagulo ba?)

Brother Gino, Loving someone is very different from Needing someone…Im sure you will agree… will have to go because I love my woman so much that I need her NOW (peace brother)

[Gino]

Originally Posted by nesotos

Brod Art

Welcome ulit...Nice to bump on you here… hehe… brother Gino is happily married with kids… if you will browse the threads, it will be easy for you to find out that he loves his family so much…

Nga pala, nakita ko rin yang thread na NO Money NO Honey!... hahaha… sige pupunta rin ako dyan brother… minsan punta ka ng BistroMabuhay, inum tayo dun and kwento mo yung pangyayari sa pamilya mo (kalungkot din bro)... kahit cyber-drink lang ok na!...

Bro. Gino

I guess the mis-connotations would have to do with the words- GIVING and MAKING

Making love and giving love… two very different acts…

I can say “I like giving love on the dining table”…how?... because I cooked for my wife or girl which is how I express my love for her… which would be different if I said – “I like making love on the dining table…” and I’ll leave your imagination to run wild on that!

The premise that (if I may rephrase the words)…

Men expect Sex in return for Love; or that Women expect Love in return for Sex may hold true!... especially in relationships not built on respect… or if I again rephrase the words and substitute LOVE with NEED…or want if you may...

So we now have very different premises to wit:

Men expect Sex in return for Needing that woman and Women expect Needing her in return for Sex (nagulo ba?)

Brother Gino, Loving someone is very different from Needing someone…Im sure you will agree… will have to go because I love my woman so much that I need her NOW (peace brother)

i like the idea of giving love on the dining table and i would like to make love as well on the dining table, for a change, hahaha,

[Pepito]

Making & GIVING...hmmnnnn
Puwede bang ...I 'll make first before giving it or vice versa...sandali nalito si Pepito kasi napunta sa Dining table...ikaw kasi G. Nesotos.

Ipagluluto ako ni maylabs ng LOVE and we'll eat on the dining table and op kors ipagluluto ko rin siya and we'll both eat on the dining table.....Naku ang thread na ito napunta sa hapag-kainan!!!!

[BUBOY86]

...We can GIVE without loving , But we cannot LOVE without giving!

kung standard height yung dinning table agree! ,
pano kung breakfast side table ?? har har . napalayo yata o napataas ? mabuhay po kayo !!

[lupigue]

I think bec. i saw women word,can i share my opinion too.

tagalog po ang sagot ko sa english na question u sir..

Karamihan sa mga lalaki talaga nmn gawin ang lahat mapa ibig ka lng .......kahit sa una pa lng na pagtatagpo pwede nyang agad sabihin na mahal kita khit ala sa puso nya sa puson lng pala galing sus syempre lalo na kung asa stage of emote yun babae talaga nmn gi give in sa matamis na dila ni lalaki yun sex na....susunod, ang mga lalaki karamihan napakadali silang magsabi at magpakita ng pagmamahal lalo na pag nakikita nila na may problema babae....Pero karamihan mababaw kasi pag tapos na cya at sawa na sus ....bilis din escapo n....the cycle is always repeated..

Mga babae nmn kasi sobra ma emosyonal kaya yun napa ka easy to give in into sex kasi kala nila love talaga sila ......tapos pagkatapos mabuntis wawa nmn escapo n nag alayan nila ng sex na yan.....

Yes Men give love for sex.........they do everything for sex eventhough their love offer is a fake one..

Yes women give sex for Love.....bec..they felt that men is true...
Hmmmm ok women like me dnt blame much to the men bec. God give u a brain to use it ......they will not cheat u if u do use ur brain be smart if guys coming into ur way..

Lastly...if u experienced such thing the only way out is to gather urself and stand once again learn fr. the lesson.......


dami po ........yan po yun modern na sagot ko...

[kozy_b]

hi bro Gino,based on ur explanation I think you r a romantic person or you have the compassion to your love ones,she is lucky whoever she is.My points of view it is case to case basis,it depends what kind of relationship you have,and the personal manners or characteristics and upbringing.There is nothing wrong also if you just want to have fun then both should responsible for the consequences.It takes two to tango!Don`t used someone if you do not want to be used,remeber those golden rules...anyway sex is for adults so we are grown enough to decide or choose what we gonna do with our love..regards to all!!!!!